Saturday, 2 August 2025

Dvar Torah: Parashat Devarim Shabbat Devarim / Erev Tisha B’Av

I’ve been thinking of getting a tattoo. Not something trendy or artistic—but a line in Yiddish: ס׳איז שווער צו זײַן אַ ייִד “It’s hard to be a Jew.”

I don’t really want to get a tattoo, but those words are starting to feel truer today than ever before. Even here, in the UK, in the 21st century, where we live with safety and freedom, it’s starting to feel, once again, a little hard to be a Jew.

Not hard in the way it was for our great grandparents, surviving pogroms or murdered in the Holocaust. Not even like it was for our family and friends in Israel reeling from the massacre of October 07, and more recently sitting in bomb shelters under ballistic missile fire. Yes, social media is an annoying sewer of antisemitism, and yes, Jews are not welcome at Pride events or at some comedy clubs. That pain is real, but it’s not what I’m talking about.

Here’s what I mean. It’s hard to be a Jew when you see other Jews as enemies. It’s hard when the community you love doesn’t recognize the Jew you are as fully valid. It’s hard when the threads that bind us start to fray—not because of outside pressure, but because of what we do to one another.

I come from a South African, shtetl-rooted background. Some of you grew up here in the German Liberal or British Reform world. Different accents. Different worldviews. And sometimes, we find it hard to understand one another. We speak the same language—but we don’t always hear each other. That’s the pain I feel the most. <> And it’s exactly the pain that this week’s Torah portion, and this moment in our Jewish calendar, dares us to face. This week, we begin the final book of the Torah: Sefer Devarim. In Parashat Devarim, Moses tells the Jewish people how they got to this moment, before their entry into the land of Canaan. It opens softly: “These are the words that Moshe spoke to all Israel…” (Devarim 1:1) These are the words of Moshe’s parting speeches—his final testimony to a people on the cusp of a new beginning. After forty years of wandering, they are about to enter the Land. And Moshe, who will not go with them, gathers his people and speaks to them.

After 40 years in the desert, there’s now a lot of them, and Moses says: ‘How can I bear unaided the trouble of you, and the burden, and the bickering!’ (Devarim 1:12). Let’s look at each of these qualities – through Rashi’s commentary that he takes lock stock and barrel from Sifrei devarim 12.1, a book of commentary that was compiled around 220 ACE.

Rashi says the trouble of you means the Israelites were troublesome. ‘If one perceived that an opponent in a lawsuit was about to be a victor in the case, he would say I have more witnesses to bring and further proof to introduce or I will add more judges to the judges who are already sitting.’

On the burden, Rashi says ‘the Israelites were like apikorsim. If Moses went to work early, they would say what problems is he having at home. And if he went to work late, they would say, what do you think, He is sitting and devising evil schemes against you and is plotting against you.’

The third description the bickering means they were contentious or combative. In summary the people were a pain in the neck, they suspected Moshe of corruption, and of bias. They didn’t give him the benefit of the doubt. They would just go on and on. And that wore Moses down. It exhausted him.

I know these people. I am these people. We haven’t changed much, have we?

So, from Parashat Devarim – the difficulties before we enter the Promised land, to Tisha B’Av, the tragedies while losing the Promised Land till today

Tonight is the start of Tisha B’Av, the day we mourn our greatest communal traumas. It started as a day of mourning for the destructions of the first and second Temple, the Beitar massacre, and the banning of Jews from Jerusalem and now it includes mourning for the massacres of the Crusades, the expulsions from Spain and from England, and it is also the day Charedi Jews mark the Holocaust. Tishah b’Av addresses the pain of the Jewish people, as Yiddin.

Tonight, we’ll sit on the floor and read Eikhah, the Book of Lamentations written in response to the destruction of the first Temple. We’ll dim the lights, set aside comfort, and lean into grief. No greetings. No Torah study, except for texts about destruction. For extra pain, I highly recommend the Talmud in Gittin from daf 55b to 58a, that describes the failure of leadership and Zealots burning their own food supplies. It describes what happens when judgement fails, when kindness to each other and humility and accountability fails.

Tisha B’Av is not only about destruction done to us by our enemies. The rabbis of the Talmud ask: Why was the Second Temple destroyed? The answer they give is that it wasn’t because of Roman military might. The answer is sinat chinam— our baseless hatred for each other. Mistrust. Division. The erosion of the bonds of community from within. We are not just grieving what was done to us – our Jewish bodies. We are grieving what we have done—and still do—to each other.

The rabbis of the Talmud recognize that the Temple was not lost in a single moment of military defeat, but through countless small failures of heart, and lack of judgement, each one a missed opportunity to choose compassion over pride. At least that version of events gives us some agency. If only we were nicer to each other, maybe that would protect us from those who seek to kill us and take us hostage. I used to scoff at the idea that we can make that naïve exchange of please don’t hurt me, look how nice I am. Or how German Jews were surprised about how they were treated by the Germans from 1933 onwards considering how German, they saw themselves compared to Ost-Juden. Now, sitting in the hotseat of history, I’m starting to think that maybe that’s actually true. The less fractured we are, the more we can work together to protect ourselves from the agony that is done to us, over and over and over again.

So maybe I’ll get that tattoo on one arm: ס׳איז שווער צו זײַן אַ ייִד — It’s hard to be a Jew.

But on the other? I can imagine a different tattoo: אַהֲבַת חִנָּם — Love freely given.

If sinat chinam destroyed the centre of our Jewish world, maybe ahavat chinam can help rebuild a better Jewish world. And it starts with me feeling my pain and making space for your pain too. We’re all hurting.

This Shabbat, and this Tisha B’Av, I want to ask…Eicha How can we build trust back? What words have we spoken, or withheld, that have hurt others? Where have we assumed the worst instead of believing the best? Where can we listen with more curiosity, and speak with more compassion?

Tisha B’Av doesn’t let us skip to the happy ending. We first have to sit with the pain. We have to name what’s been lost. We have to mourn what was done to us and feel the pain where it hurts. We have to sit in the discomfort, because that’s where the healing could potentially happen.

At the end of Eikhah, after all the pain, comes my favourite line in the service, where we return the Torah to the ark on Shabbat morning. After all the pain described in the book of Eikhah, we beseech God. We hark back to the innocent days before any damage was done to us. We say: we’ll come back to you God but first you come back to us.

We say: “Hashivenu Hashem eilecha v’nashuvah, chadeish yameinu k’kedem.” “Return us to You, God—and we shall return. Renew our days as of old.” (Eikhah 5:21)

Alevei

Tuesday, 25 March 2025

Shabbat Parah

Today is shabbat Parah which is one of the special shabbatot to get us to start thinking about an upcoming festival. Yes, Purim is now in our rear-view mirror and Pesach is coming towards us at full speed. It’s time to get ready… Today we read the first section of Chukkat which is about the red heifer preparation.

In Numbers 19:1-22, the Israelites are commanded to sacrifice a red heifer without blemish, burning it entirely outside the camp. Its ashes, mixed with water, are used for ceremonial cleansing. Anyone who touches a corpse becomes unclean for seven days and must undergo purification using this mixture of water and ashes from the red heifer.

The connection with Pesach is that the Talmud, in Pesachim, discusses the necessity of ritual purity before sharing in the Passover meal, emphasizing that those who are impure cannot eat the korban Pesach. Pesachim 92a -clarifies that someone who can become pure through the Parah Adumah (red heifer) ritual must do so in time to participate in the Passover meal.

In preparing for this dvar torah, I saw many opinions about this red heifer purity ritual from people far, far wiser than me. Starting with King Solomon the wisest of them all… Where King Solomon, traditionally the author of Kohellet says “All this have I tested in wisdom. I said, "I will be wise", but it was far from me. Yoma 14a teaches that he is referring specifically to the Red Heifer.

Rambam categorized this mitzvah as a chok—a divine decree beyond full human comprehension. He acknowledged its paradoxical nature: the ashes purified the impure but rendered the pure impure. It is the realm of the supra-rational. Rambam explains that a chok—a divine law without an apparent rational explanation—teaches humility. He says that while some commandments have clear reasons, others, like the Red Heifer ritual, transcend human understanding. Accepting chukim demonstrate that divine wisdom surpasses human intellect.

The anonymous author of Sefer haChinuch understood to be a student of Rambam says he provided an explanation for many commandments but with this one, ‘his hand are weak and mouth scared to utter a word, as the depth of this commandment is too deep and filled with secrecy’.

In Bamidbar Rabbah 19:3, a 12th- century midrashic commentary on the Book of Numbers teaches that even wise King Solomon, who investigated the matter, in the end could not fully grasp it. The Midrash says only Moses is told the rationale for the red Heifer by God, which Moses doesn’t share with us.

Jay Schlesinger drew my attention to Dr Joseph Weinstein, who notes that to make soap, one needs three components: an alkali, from ash, water and fat, and he wonders if soap-making was a trade secret of the Kohanim.

So many attempts to reconcile this strange Mitzvah…

Another response to this mitzvah is to walk away from it entirely. To see it as further evidence that our tradition is arcane and irrelevant. Those that don’t walk away, have tried over the centuries to find reasons for the place of this ritual in our lives, including it in our torah reading cycle, and even re-reading it again today.

Moshe Halberthal, in one of my favourite books, called People of the Book, looks at how interpretation works. In particular, he looks at canon and the principle of charity. Canon is when we seal a text and say we are not changing it anymore. Charity here is not charity as we usually think of it, by giving money. This view of charity is a way of looking at another’s statements as a way to shed some light on them, to see that they have light to shed. Uncharitable readings see the text in the service of an unjust cause. I’ve seen that approach around antisemitic, out-of-context quotes from the Talmud that demonstrate how wicked Judaism is. It breaks my heart.

Moshe Halberthal says that when it comes to our canonical texts like the Torah and the Mishnah and the Talmud, charitable readings are more generous in showing the work in the best light. I’m in the charitable camp.

So maybe that’s why the need to make sense of Parah Adumah doesn’t bother me at all. There is so much in our tradition and in our liturgy that rubs me the wrong way, that makes no sense to me, that’s a stone in my shoe. But I love it all, the good and the bad and the confusing. My love is unconditional. I love being Jewish and being part of a long and wide tradition that I swim in. I don’t need to understand it all, to reconcile it all or to explain it all. Even more so when I discovered Rambam, the Talmud and NNLS. I belong here and it belongs to me.

So, I don’t believe we should all believe the same thing, or that I should cancel you if you don’t believe the same thing as me, or that we should eliminate or change the parts of our prayers and rituals that don’t agree with my beliefs. I believe in showing up and helping out. I believe in finding your community and sustaining it. I believe we are stronger together with all our differences.

Shabbat Parah reminds us that our tradition is not always about understanding every detail. Sometimes it’s about showing up with humility, embracing the mystery, and connecting to something larger than ourselves. I love being part of this community, and I hope that we can all continue to find strength in our shared practices and diverse beliefs.